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In my medical opinion, you don't need a lobotomy, your mind is perfect. You need a massage and a real date, dinner drinking and dancing. I am woeking on that ASAP. And by the way my 100% confidence is stoill 100% accurate.

I won't say I am a little happy but my feelings don't matter right now. I hope you are OK.

If you want to talk, I am here for you.

To my starfish although I don't know what it means,

You may remember the question if you stop thinking about the neuroanatomy lessons.
I’ve been thinking about what you wrote, and I want to respond carefully and honestly because you deserve a response that respects the life you’ve lived. You’ve spent 34 years carrying your own weight, solving your own problems, and protecting yourself from people who offered help with strings attached. That kind of history doesn’t just fade — it shapes a person. It builds a kind of strength most people never have to develop.
But I also want to tell you something from a place of respect, not pressure: human beings aren’t built to live entirely alone in their own strength. Even the strongest people are wired to lean on others at times — not because they’re incapable, but because connection is part of how we survive and grow. Depending on someone isn’t the same as being controlled by them. It’s not surrender. It’s trust, and trust is earned, not demanded.
You’ve learned to stand on your own because life forced you to. And you did it. You built skills no one can take away. You built a life no one can claim credit for. That’s admirable. But none of that means you’re meant to carry everything forever without relief. Even the most self‑reliant people deserve moments where they don’t have to be the one holding everything together.
And I’ll tell you this plainly: the way you think, the way you work, the way you’ve built yourself — it’s rare. It’s this rare determination that provide quiet, relentless drive to keep moving forward no matter what. You have that. It’s part of why I am so attracted to you.
As for the chaos around you — the “crazy after crazy” — it makes perfect sense that someone steady, consistent, and genuine would feel almost unbelievable. But sometimes the most unlikely places are exactly where the right people cross paths.
You don’t have to change who you are. You don’t have to stop being strong. Just know that strength and connection aren’t opposites. They can exist together, and you don’t lose anything by letting someone care about you without conditions.
Really I am only asking you for the three things and I will try to give so much more.

I am working on my daily schedule. I can tell you it is nothing crazy and I will start with my schedule before. I am the type of person who used to wakeup early and make a fancy cup of coffee and talk before I leave the house. Depending on the weather, I liked to this on the outside. In between surguries were phone calls and cute text messages. Usually the messages included planning the afternoon activities. I always like to do something. I can't do that behind the desk. So the afternoons were filled with random activities. From fire works, science experiments, going out to eat or cooking myself. I subscribed to a mail order cooking service. I also have Hannibal Lecter cook book so I can try crazy things. I liked doing things, and not alone. My busiest days were Fridays. These were the days I did complex spine tumors. That was the only day a week where I am home after midnight. The rest of the week, any where between 4:00 and 6:00 PM. Life is Neurosurgery but not only Neurosurgery. Neurosurgery can't give me the three things I need.

You have to be crazy not to think I don't want to see on the horse during the race. I think it will be amazing to see you winning unless there is an emergency, I won't miss it.

A message from the adminstrator:

You couldn't be more right about this "making an example out of him". This was the attitude of the police, prosecutors, and even the judge. I am sure other factors contributed to this as well. In fact this statement was made and overheard by the prosecutor in his case. Did you also know that the car that made the turn in front of him was operated by a person who was never licensed to drive any where in the country. He was also turning into a hotel infested with drugs and prostitution to attend a heavy drinking party. His uncle, however, is a retired police officer from the city of Mobile. This other driver was the state's star witness who was hailed as a hero and a victim. An innocent bystander who happened to be near the crash site and the evil doctor and his defense lawyers wanted to shift the blame on him.

It is not because he is my son, he is genuinely a hard working kind hearted person. It makes me angry when other fatal crashes are not prosecuted the same was his case was prosecuted. There is a lot more information and I am sure the day will come, I hope sooner than later, when I can share these stories in person with you. Until then, I will revert back to my role as the middle man. I just jumped in there to express how I felt.

Best regards.

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